Going low contact with a narcissist will help you clear up any doubts you've had as to whether or not they are really abuser. If you are in a relationship that you are finding toxic and have decided to go low contact with someone as a means to create some boundaries this is the place for you. Maybe you are on the fence about how to approach the situation so you need some distance or maybe you know you really need to go NO Contact with a narcissist but are hoping you don't need to.
Going no contact with someone who isn't a narcissist will make it clear they are not a narcissist. Even slightly disturbed individuals understand and semi respect boundaries. No contact is drawing a line in the sand and saying this is where your involvement in my life will stop.
Moreover, you are not going low contact or no contact in order to win back your lover. We are not playing games here. We are trying to protect ourselves from an abuser. The only way to protect yourself from a narcissistic abuser is to draw a line in the sand and create clear boundaries.
Narcissists see no contact as a challenge and your creation of boundaries has declared the game on. A narcissist will look at that line in the sand and then immediatley look to see where that line ends. Narcissists want to find ways around or through that boundary. Further, they will not give up until you stand down and allow them to trample that boundary.
At this point it will be up to you to decide if more boundaries need to be put into place. This could involve moving, changing a phone number, or taking police action. If you are dealing with a narcissist going low contact will bring to light the fact that this person has no respect for you or your life.